Compassion and Mental Health
This article was originally published in the Mountain View Voice on January 13, 2015
Quoted in Business Insider's: 14 things that child therapists wish they could say to parents
See Erinne Magee's full article in Business Insider.
While most therapists make it a priority to reassure parents they're doing a great job, they also try to help make the job of raising children a bit smoother by zeroing in on a handful of important reminders — some of which they don't always get the chance to say to parents directly. We asked 11 mental health professionals what they wish that parents of their young clients knew. The most common advice stemmed from reminding parents how integral their influence — direct or indirect — is on children, no matter the age. Here are the areas where therapists believe an extra dose of awareness could go a long way.
Are Treadmills the New Prozac?
Ok, so everyone knows that regular exercise is a must if you want to attain and maintain good physical health – it lowers blood pressure, decreases the risk of heart disease and various cancers, the list goes on and on. But did you know that exercising in accordance with the public health recommendations is actually considered an effective treatment for people with mild to moderate depression (APA, 2014)? To be honest, I didn't realize that! I mean, I knew that the American Psychological Association (APA) recommends exercise for decreasing symptoms of depression, but I hadn't ever looked that closely at the research until preparing this post. And the research is compelling!
Sleep Better, Feel Better
Quoted in Oprah Magazine article: Signs You Might Be in an Unhappy Relationship
Committing yourself to someone every single day takes work and no partnership is perfect. If you've ever wondered whether or not you hate your spouse (seriously) you're not the only one. But, there's a difference between the standard marital ennui and finding yourself questioning whether you're actually unhappy, or even in a loveless marriage. And if you are pondering that, you're also probably considering what you should do about it.
Check out the rest of Ashley Mateo's awesome article in Oprah Magazine:
Happiness Through Mindfulness
This article was originally published by the Mountain View Voice on Dec 24, 2014
This article was originally published by the Mountain View Voice on Dec 19, 2014
If you follow along with my posts over the next 10 weeks and make the changes outlined therein, I can almost guarantee that you will experience increased happiness. The changes I recommend are based on my observations as a clinical psychologist where one notices that, although packaged slightly differently, most of the treatments in psychology with any research behind them pretty much target the same behaviors regardless of the specific symptoms or disorders they are designed to treat.
In my work as a therapist I've observed that even in the absence of a disorder or obvious symptoms, attending to the same behaviors that these treatments in psychology emphasize can significantly improve one's sense of happiness. When people aren't consistently engaging in these behaviors, happiness is compromised. Similarly, the more time and energy they put towards these behaviors, the happier they appear to be.
Before discussing the behaviors themselves, I want to note that knowing what they are will do little to change the quality of your life if you are unable to build a life around consistently attending to them. In this series of posts I'll thus provide strategies, smart phone applications, and techniques that have helped my clients consistently and effectively integrate these behaviors into daily life. For folks who are really struggling with a particular component, I'll provide some more specific treatment recommendations.
So, with no further adieu, here is the list of behaviors that I have observed to be instrumental in attaining and sustaining happiness: 1) mindfulness meditation, 2) good sleep (not just "sleep"), 3) regular exercise, 4) serving others, 5) awareness of current emotions, 6) noticing and challenging judgments, 7) practicing validation, 8) maintaining a healthy diet, 9) knowing how and when to self-soothe, 10) practicing exposure to, rather than avoidance of, experiences that cause you anxiety.
Now, this may not seem like a groundbreaking list. Indeed, most of us will have had at least several of these behaviors recommended to us before. What I find interesting, however, is the extent to which attending to all of these issues radically can improve one's quality of life, regardless of if you are struggling with work stress, relationship problems, low self-esteem, or even just boredom.
Moving forward, I intend to focus on one of the aforementioned 10 factors each week for 10 weeks. Why 10 weeks? First, it's more manageable for me to focus on tackling one topic a week (I have a 9-month old on my lap as I type this), and second, those of you who want to work on addressing these behaviors will hopefully find it more manageable.
My experience has been that some people want to overhaul their entire lives, while others have lives that feel so full, just the thought of adding another agenda item is anxiety inducing. As such, I've developed ways to address each happiness factor for folks with lots, and those with little, time.
I'd encourage you to stay tuned over the coming weeks as I cover these topics, but I know staying tuned won't make much of a dent in your overall quality of life. So instead, I invite you to follow along and experiment with some of the proposed changes. As always, your comments are welcome and appreciated!
This blog includes both new and previously published articles by Dr. Fleck.